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I love the handful of earth you are.Because of its meadows, vast as a planet,I have no other star. You are my replicaof the multiplying universe.

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Getting introspective to be a better partner in 2020

It is the time of year where celebrations and indulgences are coming to an end. We are turning into the beginning of a new year faced with at least two months of dieting and exercising ads (read the following in a highly sarcastic voice: so we can become a better version of ourselves). I lament the loss of easy joy, indulging...

A last minute present guide for your lover(s)

Have you waited to the last minute to get your lovers* a present? No worries I have a few suggestions that won’t empty your wallet and can be accomplished in the days you have left until whichever holiday you celebrate arrives.

I recognize that not everyone is interested, able, or at that stage in a relationship where...

Feeling glum about how you look? Try getting naked

When many of us wake up and look in the mirror, we don’t love what we see. And that can be a problem.

According to the National Eating Disorders Association, people with negative body image, regardless of gender, are more likely to develop an eating disorder and suffer from feelings of depression, isolation, low...

Sex on the couch: What a sex coaching session is really like

When I first began conceiving my business plan for Birds and Bees, I was focused on workshops because I love being in rooms with groups of people. It quickly became evident that my joy and ease with sex topics wasn’t always going to lead to rooms full of people. How was I going to meet the needs of individual clients, when I...

Savage Love: Husband’s extreme sexual anxiety is killing woman’s libido

I’m a heterosexual cis woman in a monogamous marriage. My husband and I have always struggled to connect sexually, mostly because he has extreme anxiety that makes doing anything new or different difficult. He’s been in therapy since before I met him, but it doesn’t seem to be helping...

There is no way to measure virginity: not in a box, not with a fox, and certainly not with a hymen

In an effort to be an inclusive and supportive voice in the arena of sexuality, I do a lot of work to temper my feelings on most topics. I write several drafts and attempt to build understanding around the nuance and diverse opinions on a topic. This column is going to look and sound differently because this is a topic that I...

Savage Love: Jealous boyfriend makes it hard to enjoy kinky play

My boyfriend and I met online to explore our kinks. We’d both been in relationships with kink-shaming people who screwed with our heads. Since we weren’t thinking it was more than a hookup, we put all our baggage on the table early and wound up becoming friends. Eventually we realized we...

First rule: We don’t talk about the Fight Club

When I hear people discuss how great their relationships are because they never, ever fight it makes me concerned and a bit sad. I believe the differences in people are what make relationships worth having and worth the hard work to maintain.

Don’t be a mimicSocial norms and...

Trick or Treat: A Halloween sex quiz to show us how smart you are

Trick or Treat: Let’s play a game to test your sexual knowledge!

(Answers can be found at the end of the column)

1. Male bodies can only have one orgasm at a time.

2. Nipples and lips are regularly mentioned as the...

We need to teach heterosexual, cisgender men about sex

There is an underserved and neglected segment of the population when it comes to sex education and it is not who you think. Heterosexual, cisgender men. This group within society holds most of the power and privilege and yet, they are seriously lacking when it comes to sexual knowledge. Society perpetuates the idea that...

FYI: You’re probably using condoms incorrectly

The steps to using a condom correctly is one of my favorite pieces of information to share, partially because folks seem to be surprised when I list off more steps than they were expecting. Also, it is fundamental information to protect against STIs (sexually transmitted infections) and/or pregnancy. Condoms are one of the...

Rape is not about sex, orgasm, or pleasure It’s about power and domination

In this edition of the Sex & Love column I will be talking about sexual assault and abuse. Please take care of yourself and skip this column if you need to. There is 24 hour support for survivors through Durango’s Sexual Assault Services Organization (SASO) at 970-259-3074 or...

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