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Etiquette, romance, and grand gestures

I feel anxious and tired.

I don’t have answers to folks going without physical touch or sex right now.

I feel lost when it comes to where my energy should be focused.

This month I suggest folks donate to or volunteer for RAICES — https://www.raicestexas.org/ an organization fighting for immigrants in...

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Don’t wait until you have a problem

Please support however you are able, the National Bail Fund Network https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory.

“The National Bail Fund Network is made up of over sixty community bail and bond funds across the country. We regularly update this listing of community bail funds that are freeing people by...

Breaking out of small, harmful sex boxes

Moving forward I will use space in every column to highlight a racial justice organization or resource that we all can support or learn from. This is meant to bring awareness and change to Durango, this state, and this country. Please support however you are able, SURJ or Showing Up for Racial Justice...

How to navigate sex safely during COVID-19 times

Unsurprisingly, a highly contagious and debilitating virus is still actively storming through our communities, making it difficult to touch others — nevermind actually getting to have sex. What the hell is a person to do for the foreseeable future for sex?! How does one navigate health and safety with very real physical and...

Labels and words are a tool, but also a battle

Words are incredibly powerful. So powerful they can hurt us more decisively than a sword and bring us together with a simple phrase —

Sí, se puede

Black Lives Matter

Me Too

Hell, no we won’t go

Rise up!

Labels are a tool used to take words and build a community. For people who face...

Anal sex is the cherry on top of the taboo sundae of sex

Let’s circle back around to anal sex.

So often our narrow view of sex as being penis into vagina holds folks back from pleasurable experiences. Sex is defined by the individual and can include ANY activity — kissing, holding hands, intimate conversation, sexting, oral, solo or mutual masturbation, fingering, anal,...

Getting all twitterpated about BDSM

BDSM is not my main swimming pool. It’s an adjacent and smaller swimming pool for the work that I do. There are amazing practitioners and educators whose BDSM pool is bigger and so I make referrals and stick to my generalist pool. As a generalist, I will need to swim in these adjacent, smaller pools so that I can meet clients...

A dispatch from a braless, bleeding, C^$!-reading sex coach sheltering at home

One positive I have found from the stay-at-home order is the opportunity to go braless! It is my favorite, easy pleasure to come home at the end of the day and take off my bra. The release of pressure, the sense of freedom, and the easing of containment. I’m lucky my girls are of moderate size and manageable. My bras don’t...

Now, more than ever, you should be having sex

Disclaimer: Stress and illness can annihilate a person’s libido. If you or your lovers aren’t interested in sex — listen and take a break. Physical touch can help relieve stress and lift our emotional health AND you don’t have to be turned on and doing it all the time. I promote masturbation and sex because that’s what I do....

Sex In The Time of COVID-19

How do you have sex when practicing social distancing?

The short answer is you don’t have sex.

Of course, the world and how we interact with it is not black and white. It is important to remember that I am not a medical doctor and you should absolutely be listening to doctors, epidemiologists, and other health...

How one Durangoan is trying to help performers get started in the adult industry

Ever thought about taking it all off on the Internet for money?

At first glance, becoming a webcam model sounds easy – you get in front of your computer, go online, take your clothes off for an audience, and get paid for it. But, there are also a bunch of decisions to make and many hoops to jump through: What equipment...

A discussion of the damage done by the patriarchy

I was going to write about anal sex for this upcoming column. Instead, as I read the news that Elizabeth Warren has dropped out of the Democratic Primary for President of the United States, I realized there is more that needs to be done to talk about equality, misogyny, privilege, patriarchy, and...

Savage Love: Sleep apnea sufferer wonders whether he can still have rough oral sex

I’m a middle-aged gay man and I was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. This is a disorder caused by the soft tissue in the throat collapsing during sleep. On top of making me feel tired and awful all the time, sleep apnea is associated with a long list of health complications.

I’m writing you because I’m into very...

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